Break the code, your "own" code

This is not about any software code that I am talking about here, for there are much bigger things to discuss when life is standing at a cross-road, than some code of software. What I am talking about here is the “code of life” that we all are living with knowingly, unknowingly.

Putting it across in a software engineer’s language, when you have designed and developed an application, after that all that time that you do is just run the exe file of the same and get the work done, and even you yourself forgets the code which is running underneath. Talking in the layman’s language, when you have learned to do something, decided about certain parameters in life, taken your decisions on how to do a certain job, and then after a certain amount of time, you know that this can be done and steps that you follow comes to you automatically, but the guidelines that you have decided on, can never be recalled.

After a certain point in time, if you need to break those same lines of code, which you now remember nothing of, by just looking at the running exe file, can you really do it? Only some of us face this problem on breaking your own code, and when it happens, let me assure you, it’s not easy and even recalling the protocol that you are following, is a damn tough job.

Now the question is, what can be the plausible cases on why do you have to break your own code? As my understanding says, they can be:
1. When you need change the course of your life.
2. When you are no longer satisfied by your own course, or
3. When you face someone who is exactly like you, and needs to break ‘em in order to survive.

Now what can be the solution for such a problem?

Even one of the famous hindi comics namely “Super Commando Dhruv” ’s version says, when a villain created exactly similar fighters of the comic heroes namely “Super Commando Dhruv”, “Dhananjay” & “Zhingalu”, it was quite impossible for the heroes to win. On fighting with them Dhruv realizes that they can’t beat them for they know all of their tactics, and this fight will go infinitely. So to beat their own self, they have to change the fighting partners amongst themselves and hence move ahead.
But this is not a possibility in life, for a change of partners is not possible when you are the only one fighting your own fight.



A tough fight lies ahead of you in such a case, and is there anything you can do? I am leaving you with this question, for I myself am finding an answer.

Shades of Life (The Third Color)

Dream Big or Get Real: A Question or an Answer?




You can be what you want to be? or You are what you are?

As people say, Dreams are the Image of your soul, but is dreaming big what really that everybody's soul says? Or is it just what people tend to keep in front of them, to survive in the current scenario or the current competition in the market. Dreaming big can just be perceived as something that can be viewed as a challenge, that you keep in front of yourself and hence try to live up to it.


But on the Contrary, if your soul doesn't align with the Dream that you have kept for yourself, will you really be able to achieve it? And will that really be a fair deal playing with what you really want to be and what you are really here for? What capabilities that you really have and something that are you trying to achieve, just because of the fear of being left behind and defying your real capabilities.

These correspond to some of the questions that I have for myself from some time. This in a way shows the juggles that my mind goes through at times, and if you ask me what conclusions I have reached so far, I would say, if any conclusions I would have reached at, I wouldn't have been writing this.

Now days the most frequent sight that I have of others, and even at times of myself relates to the fact that we don't do things that what we really need to, or what we really want to, but rather do, what other wants or others think is important. Girls want to wear skirts because that is in fashion. Boys want Super bikes because they show them as powerful. But how good is it and how far can it really take you? Why don't we think what we really need, and try to achieve that than just following others lead.


Life gives you windows of opportunity on what you deserve to be, and what you have to be. Grabbing that will make you follow your own path but people tend to decline those opportunities and follow others and do what they ask of them. This leads to utter confusion in your inner self and hence creates an imbalance and makes you unstable and unhappy.

Shades of Life (Color second)

In the “Cup of Life”, here again another aspect that we will see is the “Values”. These are not the moral values that I am talking about here, but rather just inherent and the innate ones that I see a more important part of.
Values are nothing but some stable points of reference that one creates for himself. These are the points which define something you can do and something that you can never do.

Values are something which is desired or is desirable by you and by the ones closer to you. Point to be noted here is that values have got to do nothing with the expectations that others have of you but rather is an expression of what you want to show yourself as. Values simply imply the perception that you want/expect people to have of you.

When values are the centre that you revolve around and someone or you yourself mess with those values, where do you believe you will find yourself for any decision making or any crisis situation that you further on face. What will you turn to, for support? Values are something inherent to you an absence of which brings about nothing but your downfall. And the worst part comes, when at such a time you find yourself in a company who instead of pulling you back on track has the capability to throw you out of your own system. Finding yourself in such a situation, makes your life go haywire and estimating the damage is what you are left with for the whole of your life and trying to minimize it or to get to rid of it is a dream that you are going to carry on for long.

Values people say is something that you can never change, but I completely disagree for the fact that when it is something of your own you can always play with it, for good or for worse, that is for you to make it. But handle with care is a caution with a capital C.

A moment of Happiness

It is what I would define as something that pulls us out of our state of normal idiosyncrasy and puts us in a state of belief where we believe that Life is so good, or I am so lucky, or I am the best on this planet Earth, or I am the chosen one of God. That is the only moment when we do not tend to think that “Why me?” and then, suddenly we think otherwise because that moment was just a moment and now it’s gone. This thought is what this whole topic is all about.

Why a moment of happiness doesn’t last long? Why it is that good things have a short life? Is this because life is basically bitter or is it just that we don’t realize good things as good until they are gone? or they are just to end and then crib and cry over it. It may be anything but the general and public opinion stand still that “Happiness is just for a moment”; though its memories last but the real moment is gone even before we know it came.

Did you ever think about what are good things in life? Good things, I would state them to be something which is healthy for us; healthy in the physical, emotional, psychological sense. Can you think of anything which is sweet and which is good? Can any such thing really exist? As a matter of fact, nothing really sweet exists which is good for us in any way. For instance, Bitter gourd, a very nutritious thing for health, is named over something we all try to stay away from, “Bitter”. Another thing that I can simply talk about is Turmeric, when taken with a medicinal value is also bitter. So does that mean that all good things are bitter? Has nature made them so?


Now what do we do, stay healthy or stay sweet. Is there nothing we can do to get both? Is this simply a choice for us to choose either from pain (referred to as bitter here) or a happiness (referred to as sweet). So in general life, what we tend to choose is a very personal opinion though most take up the sweet thing as soon as we see it. May be, the next time I see it, I am gonna stay away. Or I am gonna shout, Leave me the way I am. I do not seek your mercy. I seek no one’s mercy. People say, “If everything is going right, then you are on the wrong path” but I wanna ask, Why? Why can’t an easier path be the right path? Why is it that only the tough paths are supposed to be the right ones?

For all the problems that we face, Society tells us, whatever happens, happens for good. That I believe is just a consolation prize that we get for we could not get what we wanted; something just to play with so that either we can blame some part of it on God or to wait for something good to happen to us. But should we really wait for something good to happen or should we create our own path..


Whatever it is, Life is not going the way you are going. Take your own path and let the life follow you.



PS: When I come to think of this blog, there are more questions than answers, but that’s what life has offered us. More questions for the last question that we have found the answer to.

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Shades of Life (The First Color)

Life we all know is a coalesce of sips with a blend of a zillion flavors per sip. A flavor is introduced to that cup by every change in our environment, the environment that consists of again an unaccountable factors and most of all, our own decisions. Any decision that we take at a cross-road decides what flavors be introduced to the cup which we are going to taste for the rest of our lives.

In the First sip, let’s talk about the strongest aspect of our lives. Something that make us what we are and build us what we want to be i.e. the THOUGHT PROCESS.


A human thought process revolves around each and every major and minor decision of our lives. Even if we take a single step, there lies a thought process behind it. Now each and every move, each and every step doesn’t fall right, as things intend to go wrong, for we are not perfect and we ought not to be. About every failed decision, we say something like, “I should have thought about it”. But why didn’t we? It’s not that we didn’t actually, but just that our Thought Process didn’t go right or was not enough.




Analysis or thought process goes about in certain steps for 95% of the people and the rest 5% people either are Innovators or are dawdlers. This involves steps such as problem break-down, alternatives, & solution at the core but may includes a series of steps such as changing the solution path as dynamically as possible, forecasting the result and changing the move, and on and on. These are very strong part of the Thought Process but still not the strongest which is nothing but your own experiences..


An experience that your thought process has gathered act as the strongest learning that it can have as a resource. This drives the current and all the other decisions that it takes in the future. The better the learning that your thought process can have, the better it becomes. These parameters decide your success or failure in your thought process and thence in decision making.