Shades of Life (Fourth Color)

Facing an Alter-Ego




How do you really feel when, someone like you is standing just in front you? Does that give you a feeling of elation or instead of a depression? To reach up to such a decision so quickly I believe is not an easy task, and rather depends upon lot factors, including who you really are and what you really show yourself to be.

Before anything else, first question that comes to my mind is whether you are really able to judge the other person or not, or you are just entangled within the deception net that the other person has thrown. In case of such a possibility, the very first point of taking someone as your alter-ego falters.

Analysis of the alter-ego comes at a stage quite after that, when the person in question has a real judgment power and an understanding of the other person is true to the best of his knowledge. Then and there, two major calculations that came into being are of elation or of depression. The two depends on the very simple fact that how much you love and believe in yourself, an absence of which is going to create a complete incoherence and hence the feeling of depression. It also clears out the fact that if you don’t consider your own deeds to be right, and your own shortcomings push you down, then nothing in this world is going to make you love your alter-ego, and a feeling of elation of finding one is impossible.


But if you believe in the part which is good about you, and have the clear understanding of your own capabilities, then you are going to look for the same in the other person. Everyone is so clear of their own needs and so nothing in this world is going to make them feel that they don’t know this person and satisfying their needs is not a difficult task, but just what they need is the power to come out of their shell and understand that satisfying the others ego is what needs to be done, and thence do it. An ego plays a major barricade in this case and thus should be kept aside, come what may. Elation simply follows this simple rule and nothing would stop you to really love the person.

A fear also erupts in the third case, when you know your own ugly face that you have hidden from the world, and on finding an alter-ego, you just hate them for they reminds you of the wicked soul that you yourself are.

Confused, on what is being just what said? That’s what really happens, when you face an alter-ego and can’t stay aloof, but to know them and to face the bitter truth that what you have been thinking is for your own self, someone right there has the same feeling.